Monday, October 13, 2008

Is it still reintegration if...

You've never spent more than 18 days together (doesn't that make it 'integration' rather than reintegration?)

You thought you would have a month, not have a month, and then have a few months to make the integration really meaningful and fun, only to find out, all you have is a month and then ... well, that's it.

Yeah. We thought his next deployment was going to be mid-next year and that is not the case. So he just got home, but in my brain I'm already gearing up to say good bye again and this time it's a more real good bye because I won't get to talk to him and see him on the web cam every night, and know where he is... It's a real good bye- so my question is this. How do I not think about the good bye and only think about the hello?

4 comments:

d.a.r. said...

Aw frustrating!!! Take care of yourself and your relationship, try to live in the now...as hard as that is to do.

loquita said...

I think my best advice is to not talk about it too much. Have little sessions where you do talk about it, but otherwise, don't. Not sure if that will work for you, but sometimes it helps me. Just like LT and I try not to say "i miss you" too much on the phone, because it just seems to make us both feel worse.

Sorry your plans are getting all screwed up, we can all sympathize. You two will find a way to make the most of your time and integrate to the max. ***hugs***

Bette said...

It's so hard to always have one eye on the next deployment, but how can you not?

Although it may keep us from living in the moment, it does keep us grateful for the time we do have. So maybe instead of fighting it, embrace it? Yeah, easier said than done.

lauriec said...

Totally deja-vu! When Hunter came home from 6 mos in Kuwait in '02 we had 6 weeks before he left to go back for the start of the Invasion.

You know where to go if you need some support!